Freedom Within Boundaries
CHARLOTTE MASON VOLUME 5 :CHAPTER 3 - PART II B
Every choice comes with a consequence. However, until we learn to take responsibility for our actions, we don’t learn.
“It is not what happens that determines the major part of your future. What happens, happens to us all. It is what you do about what happens that counts.”
-Jim Rohn
It’s much easier to parent our children by enforcing structure and compliance. Boundaries are essential , but it is also essential is giving our children freedom within boundaries. Without this freedom, our children might struggle to learn more than what's expected for their grade in any subject.
“Sadly, in many cases, the assumption that children are incompetent, irresponsible, and in need of constant direction and supervision becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The children themselves become convinced of their incompetence and irresponsibility, and may act accordingly. The surest way to foster any trait in a person is to treat that person as if he or she already has it.“
-Peter Gray
A child who learns from their parents about the results of their actions will be better ready for life. We must set limits for our children, but as they grow, they should understand why we decide as we do. They should see us apply the principles that we claim to have. Basically, we should become their coaches.
It's crucial to remember that the habits we instill in our children aren't just for school but for life. If they exercise with us, they'll likely continue even after leaving home. Likewise, if they learn to manage their emotions effectively, they'll carry that skill wherever they go.
Our children learn about service, generosity, and sacrifice from us; they observe and absorb these values from our example.
Our children are watching us.